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GlamourUK’s “Hey, It’s OK” Campaign

I picked up a copy of the May 2012 Glamour UK. They’re starting a “Hey, It’s OK” campaign to “raise the awareness of depression and its hold on many young women.” 

There’s not a lot about the campaign on their website yet, except the above and this short piece about covergirl Frankie Sandford, a British performer, singer with the Saturdays. I really recommend looking for the bound issue. Frankie’s story is reflective of so many of ours – especially the way she knew when it started – she was 15 or 16 – and she avoided telling anyone about it for years. She “thought people would think, ‘What have you got to be depressed about?'” So many of us have found reasons not to talk about it, not to tell anyone about the pain. 

Get a copy, if you can. There are other great parts. I hope the campaign is a success. It made me feel better, to start.

Bucket List – Attempt Foiled!

Realized that I couldn’t get a photo of me photobombing in action, since I didn’t want the people I was with that I am writing this blog.

I did photobomb a woman’s photo on a rooftop cafe, but — no proof.

So, instead, here’s a child who photobombed his own portrait. I bow down to his mad skills. (Took with with my own Spy Cam):

Summer 2012 Bucket List

Sharing PreciousJunk’s totally awesome Summer 2012 Bucket List. Love, love, love the photos.

Am going to get right on my photobombing NYC unsuspecting tourists. Wonder if I can get away with it on The Metropolitan Museum of Art later today…. Will try to get proof.

Good.

Good.

Everything’s better through a camera lens.

I don’t know about you…

I don’t know about you ladies, but can I just say, Pauline, I had no idea that broccoli could be so interesting.

From the movie Calendar Girls, after a Women’s Institute presentation.

To remind me: No one really cares. Think: “Brevity” before speaking, and “Really, is this just broccoli?”

An image of broccoli would be a great tattoo for my wrist , to remind me to focus. Or, better, to remind me “How are you?”

I ❤️ Movies

My favorite movie genres are “Movies I’ve Nearly Memorized” and “Movies That Aren’t About Deep Stuff Because It’s Tuesday” and “Wow, That’s Pretty” and “If It Makes Me Cry, It Had Better Earn It (But My Husband’s Easy)” and “I Can’t Describe It, Because It’s Too Good” and “Whoa – Random Singing and Dancing!” and “I’m Not Going To Explain It, It Just Works” and “TOOOEEE PICK!”

Examples:

  • Revenge of the Bridesmaids
  • Sabah: A Love Story
  • Damsels In Distress (2012)
  • Danny Deckchair
  • Meet Me In St. Louis
  • Mean Girls
  • Ten-Inch Hero
  • The Baxter
  • Old exercise videos, with big hair and lots of lycra. Best watched on the couch with a friend
  • Auntie Mame
  • Sixty Six
  • Playing By Heart
  • ….and most any ABC Family movie, or something with Melissa Joan Heart. Or Emma Stone. Or Alan Rickman.  Is there anything with Emma Stone AND Alan Rickman?? Surefire hit!

I also like movies that don’t fit the above categories, but I know how to fast-forward to the good parts, AKA, “The Gilbert Parts.” If you don’t know about “The Gilbert Parts,” we will never be bosom friends. FYI.

Am growing out of “So Bad It’s Good.”

Survival Kit: Wardrobe 2 – Don’t Read Magazines, Buy The Right Clothes!

Waiting for a script at my pharmacy, I scanned the shelves of magazines for something to read on the subway ride home. Boring – All of them featured a diet as the focus. Be Like Katharine McPhee in Smash! Try Her Diet! (Photo of said McPhee wearing a bandage dress.) Look At This Model in Her Late Teens – How She Got Rid of Cellulite! (Model. Late Teens. Photoshopped.) Simple Diet to Get Bikini Ready in Three Weeks! (Please.)

A friend walked by. I pointed out the theme. He said “What about Esquire? I like their articles.” I pointed at the cover: Diet Tips So You Men Don’t Go Bald.

Of course, weight is a huge focus in our country. Of course, the right words on magazine covers sell those magazines. Obviously it’s a huge revenue maker – One month it’s how to take the weight off, the next it’s How Great This Celeb Looks With Another Few Pounds On. Then back again. Here’s the deal: I take medications that have weight gain as a side-effect. I swing. That’s why I have those five wardrobes and two halves. It’s more important to me that I work with my doctor and the others who help me manage my health and exercise (I walk a lot, living in a city, and my building has cross access only on the ground and fourth floors – I work on the 2nd). I still gain and lose weight. I’m not going to buy those magazines because they’re not talking to me.

What does help me look good is having a specific set of clothes for each size. Here’s mine (my chosen color is black). And when I look good I feel good:

  • Two pair black slacks, different styles;
  • A black dress;
  • Two black short-sleeved sweaters;
  • Two sleeveless shirts;
  • Three pair black tights;
  • One black sweater with long sleeves;
  • One black sweater with 3/4 sleeves (usually open, like a cardigan);
  • A pair of jeans that can be dressed up if necessary;
  • Undergarments that fit; and
  • A blazer that can double as a coat in warmer weather.
  • Add color at will with additional items that can be added as you can afford it. Don’t forget that accessories always fit!
I tend to buy the following when I am larger, because I can also wear them when I am a smaller size:
  • A trench that’s lightweight and packable, ideally with a zipped-in vest;
  • A winter coat;
  • A drapey black sweater/jacket thing that’s popular now. Always drapes flatteringly. Can be dressed up or down.

When I follow the guidelines in Survival Kit: Wardrobe, pt. 1, I have ways to buy a pair of slacks that will fit for two sizes. There’s ways of doing it without spending too much.

I know that I need to eat healthily, exercise, and follow the regimen I’ve worked out with my doctors and family. It’s more important that I be ME, and the ME I want to be takes medication and has five and two (half) wardrobes and has learned to be fine with that. Reading magazines that talk about the same issue of easy weight loss, over and over again, that doesn’t affect me, is dull. Writing about how I do other things with my time is awesome.

Survival Kit: Wardrobe 1 – Buy Smart & Be Ready

I’ve worked on my survival kits for years. My friend L. and I spent a lot of time cataloging ours and watching them change as we each carried ours with us in a second bag, through the halls of high school of senior year.

Since then, I’ve made two boxes – One for depression, one for mania. When I’m in an episode and happen to remember that they exist, the contents are sensory treats, as well as references to good memories and family photos.

In the past 10+ years, wardrobe has become my #1 go-to survival kit. Fact is, people SEE me during my episodes. At work, at events, my mood can’t be evident at first glance. Those who know me best can glean what’s happening through the stretch of my mouth and the pain-or-panic in my eyes. The rest have to be convinced that I’m fine.

Most, however, see what I’m wearing, and there are specific ways that I blend in by creating my own style and knowing how to build a basic wardrobe (for five full sizes, and a half-wardrobe for each size on either end). Since my weight swings drastically due to the medication that keeps me balanced in mood – I have to accept it and stick to certain basics:

  1. Choose a color. I’ve chosen black fabric, because it doesn’t vary like, say, blue would. You can expand out once your basic wardrobe is built.
  2. Tailored clothes and simple lines look good on everyone and last through the wardrobe swings. Flouncy blouses and empire waists – Just Say No.
  3. Buy the best quality for your staples as you can. Go to stores with great sales. Find brands that fit your SHAPE well, no matter what SIZE you’re buying. And, if you’re like me, you’ll go through most of the sizes in your closet in two years, so they should hold up well.
  4. Belt loops, elastic wasted skirts, and knits with some stretch – These will move with you up or down a size. Open sweaters and blazers work well, too. Do not compromise here, because you’ll get much less use out of the garment.
  5. Personally, I concentrate on my work wardrobe. I add jeans for the weekend. I’ve only got so much money to spend, and I need to use it for when I have to look my best.
  6. Accessories are a girl’s best friend. Scarves, earrings, necklaces. Let people know you’d love accessories as gifts. They’re also super easy to find at thrift stores, discount chains, and garage sales.
  7. If you purchase something trendy that will last a season, don’t spend a lot on it.
  8. Have a list of go-to stores, where you can always find your staples. Some of mine: Target for undershirts and tees, occasionally jeans and slacks with belt loops. Salvation Army for jeans, sweaters, blouses, jewelry. Macy’s has amazing sales and the basics I need in the less-expensive departments. For a special event I dress up my basics with my most elegant jewelry, or get a dress from an inexpensive store.
  9. Normally, I don’t endorse owning credit cards. It’s too easy to use them. BUT, if you get one card at a store you can count on for all different kinds of needs that will give amazing coupons and sales and you can pay the bills regularly, it may be a big help. For me, it’s at Macy’s.
  10. Go shopping with a trusted friend. I have two who are honest about what works and what I like at the moment but will never wear. One is also on the other half of our checking account, and he watches me try to figure it all out in the morning. He knows what works.